This is the second in my countdown of New Year’s Resolutions. If you missed the first, you can read it here.
I’m really, really bad at saying no. Really, really bad.
I like to say yes. I like to help. I like to do things I’m good at and I know I’ll do well. I am also very good at feeling responsible for, well, everyone.
And I will still do all of those things. But I must, in the name of all that is holy, say “no” more.
I have to remember that there are degrees of no. No doesn’t necessarily mean eff off. It may mean, “I can’t do that for you, but here are a couple of potential solutions.” Or, “I am not able to add that to my plate right now, but let’s brainstorm together over a cup of coffee.” Maybe even, “I’m not the right person to help you, but I know who is; let me connect you.”
So, here’s to saying “no” more! Or at least venturing into to “no” end of the spectrum.