New Year’s Resolution #4: It’s OK to Say No

This is the second in my countdown of New Year’s Resolutions. If you ┬ámissed the first, you can read it here.

I’m really, really bad at saying no. Really, really bad.

I like to say yes. I like to help. I like to do things I’m good at and I know I’ll do well. I am also very good at feeling responsible for, well, everyone.

And I will still do all of those things. But I must, in the name of all that is holy, say “no” more.

I have to remember that there are degrees of no. No doesn’t necessarily mean eff off. It may mean, “I can’t do that for you, but here are a couple of potential solutions.” Or, “I am not able to add that to my plate right now, but let’s brainstorm together over a cup of coffee.” Maybe even, “I’m not the right person to help you, but I know who is; let me connect you.”

So, here’s to saying “no” more! Or at least venturing into to “no” end of the spectrum.

Any tips?

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